Practical Magic Wishing Love Spell

I was inspired last night after watching the film (Practical Magic) to whip up a little spell of my own. It comes at a time when my partner and I are going through some rough times and aren't sure if we'll make it much longer as even friends. As I was watching the film I connected most with Sally, first when she was little and said she never wanted to fall in love, then when she lost her husband. Although a lot of the relationship problems are due to some pretty stupid choices I made and me discovering things abot myself which I knew on some level, but was in denial about, a good part of it is that we are both slowly coming to the painful realization that we may be good friends, and have a lot of fun together, but marriage might have been a step to far as we are two very different people, with very different interests and lifestyles and there isn't a whole lot that we can do together. So my spell, like Sally's was born because of love, although the outcome desired is different. To me, spells are prayers or wishes, with props! Which to me, makes them that bit more fun! Love spells are tricky however, as you never, ever, should wish, pray or try to cast a spell to force someone's will, including in love. So love spells should always be neutral. Wishing for the best for both parties, even if the outcome is painful or not your first choice.

So last night, I went through my herb cupboard, and got roses for love, cinnamon for passion, basil for abundance, lavender for purity (and because it's my partner's favourite scent), damiana for attraction and sugar for sweetness. Upstairs I lit one central candle, representing our love and friendship, and two candles representing each of us from that main candle. Under the light of the full moon I then began my wish:

I wish for love between my partner and I (roses went on a burning charcoal disk in my cauldron)
Even though it may not be the passionate love of lovers (now cinnamon)
But simply friendly attraction (damiana)
Let it be for the best for both of us.
I wish for it to be pure (lavender)
I wish for it to be sweet, and to heal our old wounds (sugar)
I wish for it to be abundant (basil)

I wish too, that he and I will find love that is sensual (roses)
Love that excites (cinnamon)
Love in plenty (basil)
Love that is pure (lavender)
Love that is kind (sugar)
Love that is mutual (damiana)

Though it may not be with each other,
But with another,
And that we can work through the pain, heartache and failures,
And remain true friends.

(at this point on of the candles representing us accidentally went out and so I used that as part of the spell, saying, when one of us gives up, or our flame begins to die, let the other bring us back, and relit the candle with the second one of the pair)

I wish, for love.

As the herbs burned and glowed bright in the charcoal, I envisioned the glow of love, that spark we lost rekindling itself in both our hearts, in whatever form it will finally take and sent the smoke off into the night wind.

And, talk about instant results. I went back downstairs (after unsuccessfully trying to burn my nice pretty incense and accidentally burning candle wax...ick) and watched tv with my partner, and suddenly, on it's own, a conversation was started, and he mentioned that he didn't think it (the marriage) was going to work out between us. The night ended with some hugs, a few tears, and giggles, and neither of us have set anything in stone as to what our future will be, together or apart, although I am pretty sure about the outcome due to the lovely gift of foresight, which isn't always such a blessing when you have it :-) But that's life.

We still love each other.

And we're still friends.

Which is all I ever really wanted, so I am happy.